What is AuDHD Sex Therapy exactly?

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AuDHD is a term many people use to describe the experience of being both autistic and having ADHD. This combination can shape how you experience intimacy, desire, communication, sensory input, and relationships.

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AuDHD sex therapy is designed specifically for these overlapping needs. Instead of trying to fit you into traditional relationship or sexuality frameworks, this work adapts to how your brain naturally functions.

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I offer online sex therapy for individuals and couples anywhere in Colorado, providing a space that is neurodivergent-affirming, direct, and practical.

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Common Challenges in AuDHD & Intimacy

If you’re AuDHD, you may notice patterns like:

• Mismatched desire (very high interest at times, low or absent at others)

• Sensory sensitivities that impact touch, environment, or arousal

• Difficulty staying present during sex due to distraction or overwhelm

• Communication struggles around needs, boundaries, or consent

• Feeling “too much” or “not enough” in relationships

• Rejection sensitivity or emotional intensity affecting intimacy

• Burnout impacting libido and connection

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These are not personal failures, they are patterns rooted in how your nervous system works, which may be different (but not lesser!) than a neurotypical person's.

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How AuDHD Sex Therapy Can Help

In our work together, we focus on creating sustainable, realistic ways to experience intimacy.

This may include:

1. Understanding Your Unique Arousal & Desire Patterns
We map how your brain responds to novelty, routine, stimulation, and emotional safety.

2. Sensory-Aware Intimacy
We identify what feels good, what doesn’t, and how to design sexual experiences that fit your sensory profile.

3. Communication That Actually Works
Clear, direct, and structured ways to talk about sex, boundaries, and needs—without guessing games.

4. Navigating Mismatched Needs in Couples
Support for partners with different neurotypes, libidos, or communication styles.

5. Reducing Shame & Masking
Letting go of the pressure to perform or “do sex the right way.”

6. Building Sustainable Connection
Creating intimacy practices that work even during burnout, stress, or executive dysfunction.

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Who This Is For

• Autistic + ADHD (self-identified or diagnosed) adults

• Neurodivergent couples (one or both partners ADHD, AuDHD or autistic)

• People exploring identity, desire, or relational patterns

• Individuals who feel traditional sex advice or therapy hasn’t worked

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Why Work With Me?

• Neurodivergent-affirming (no pathologizing or trying to "fix" your brain that is not broken)

• Sex-positive and inclusive of diverse identities and relationships

• Practical tools, not just insight

• Online sessions available across Colorado

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What Sessions Look Like

Sessions are collaborative, structured when needed, and flexible. You won’t be expected to “perform” or communicate in ways that don’t work for you.

We can go at your pace, use direct language, and build systems that support follow-through outside of sessions.

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Start AuDHD Sex Therapy in Colorado

If you’re ready for a different approach to intimacy, one that actually fits how you think and feel, I’d be glad to work with you.

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Schedule a free consultation today to get started.